As a kid, every time our teachers would ask us, who is your favourite super hero? Who do you look up to? I would always say how I wanted to be my dad. My dad’s one of the hardworking people I know and I saw how much he did to give us what we have now. I remember how my dad would commute to work just so we could take our car to school and all the other sacrifices he did just to give us the best of the best. Little did I know that he didn’t do it alone. It was only when I grew a little older that I realised that my dad couldn’t have done it without my mom by his side. Sure, she didn’t have a corporate job but she had the hardest one in the world. At 18, my mom had to give up everything including her own childhood to raise a child. While my dad continued working, my mom had to stop school for a year to take care of me. Then she graduated and gave up any dreams of working and building her own career so she could bring Verniece and I to school. While we remember my dad commuting to work, we didn’t notice who would wake up at 5 am to get us dressed, drive us to school, wait the whole day and even fetch us right on time with a smile on her face. While my dad worked hard to pay for our school, we didn’t notice who would tirelessly teach us so we could get our homework done and made sure we would discover and pursue our passions outside the four walls of our classrooms. While my dad would work the whole day to make sure we had food on our table and everything we need and more, we didn’t notice who would actually do the dirty work to get them on our mouths, backs and bags.
When Verniece got into skating and I started to become active in school, I saw how my mom would pay more attention to her competitions and trainings. That’s when I decided to just do my own thing. While I was very proud of all the achievements of my sister, that was the time I noticed the growing distance between my mom and I. She never stopped caring for me but because we lost that strong bond we had when I was a kid, I saw it as nagging. What I once saw as support, I now saw it as pushing too hard. All that distance between us was a factor to why my mom and I would constantly fight back when I was still a teenager but of course, God always has a better plan even for a relationship like my mom and I’s.
It’s no secret that the reason why I started blogging almost 8 years ago was because my mom took me out of school for a term and I had no choice but to just stay inside my room with only my laptop and camera as gadgets I could use. A few days into that hell hole, I spent all my time just back reading my favourite international blogs and then I realised, why not start a blog? While it wasn’t my mom’s idea for me to start A Shoe Tale, she knew deep inside her that I was destined for something better. Fast forward to 4 years later, it was her idea that my sister and I merge blogs and that’s how this blog started :)
Moms will always know what’s best for their kids and it’s just really up to them how much they push theirs to it. Looking back at everything good that’s happened to my siblings and I, I would always find that my mom helped us get there. While she doesn’t have a successful corporate career like my dad, she deserves awards and all the recognition for excelling and mastering the hardest job in the world. Now, if you were to ask me at 24, who I admire the most, it would be both my dad and mom. If I could be at least half the mom she was, I’ll be happy.
Happy mother’s day, mommy! We love you.
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